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In a relationship where GF is still communicating with ex-BF.

its called keeping your options open. I still talk to my ex, partly because I know he wants me back. The guy I am seeing hates it, so I dont bring it up. But the truth is, even though I would never go back to him, I know that I have that option if it doesnt work out with this current guy. Not proud of it, but there it is

My husband and I have been married for going on 2 years, and we have a 2 1/2 month old daughter.He has 3 grown kids (19, 23, & 29) from his previous marriage.We have known each other through our work for almost 5 years, and have been together for almost 3 years.My husband called and asked his ex-wife to come to the hospital the day our daughter was born without asking me, and he tells her all the time that she can come over to our house anytime to see her.He and his ex talk most every day, sometimes 5 or 6 times a day. He often has longer conversations with her on the cell phone than he does with me.He is an over-the-road truck driver, and he is gone from home 4-6 weeks at a time.He often hangs up on me when she beeps in on his cell phone to talk to her.She cheated on him for half of their marriage.She is also re-married.His ex talks bad about me ALL the time, which makes his older kids resent me.They were Divorced before I ever came into the picture.Where should the line be drawn?

I think ex’s are that for a reason, and once the kids are grown there is no reason for that much contact.

I recently called my ex-husband to inform him that one of our mutual friends, from where we lived before and after we got married, had passed away suddenly (we’re all in our mid to late 20s, so it was quite unexpected).

He lives with his girlfriend, her mother and step-father, as well as her brother. When I called, the mother answered and I politely asked for my ex-husband. When he answered, he asked how I was doing, we made polite talk, and then I told him about our friend. I could hear his girlfriend in the background asking if something was wrong with me and the ex’s son. I guess he said no, ’cause then I could hear her babble in the background that if nothing was wrong with the child, I had no business calling the ex, etc etc. that it was innapropriate of me to do so..

Thing is, I knew my ex-husband hadn’t been told about the death, otherwise he would had called me. He asked me what happened, who found him, when the funeral was, etc. I didn’t call to do anything other than tell him the news and when the funeral is. He has lost touch with some of his friends because his girlfriend doesn’t allow him to go on the Internet (he’s on a leash, lol), but I don’t think a death of a friend should be ignored.

What’s considered inappropriate communication? Would that had been it? I didn’t think it would be inaproppriate, but should ex-spouses really should communicate ONLY about the children?
I know his GF is insecure in their relationship, because she knows she is with a cheater: He cheated on me and left me and our son to be with her.
LOL at the last answer. HE was asking about how the friend died, when the funeral was, etc.

And I do not respect someone who does not respect me. She slept with my husband, and now I should respect her? LOL!!!. I was polite, to the point. I wasn’t going to say "Our friend X died." and then hang up. He wanted more answers.

I think that you did the right thing here and you have no reason to worry. It sounds to me like your ex’s girl is a bit on the insecure/jealous side. I am sure he would have been more upset that you didn’t call to him, the he was that you did. Girlfriend be damned.

XXXXXXXXXX if he doesn’t want to communicate with you no amount of following him will change his mind. Call him, if he doesn’t answer, leave a message. If he doesn’t phone you back. Forget him just like he’s forgotten about you. If he phone you back, good luck. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Married for 20yrs , separated off and on because I still loved him and hoped we were apart long enough to recapture what we lost but now divorced I cannot seem to stop thinking about what he is doing or sending him a text hello. Friendly Divorce but I want a sure way to be friendly still but disappear.. I feel I am his and my comfort zone buffer. HELP!!!! I need ideas like yesterday

It sounds like you still have feelings for him. If you don’t want to be with him, you need to stay away. Move on and find yourself another guy.